Give Difficult Feedback To A Peer By Email
Delivers candid peer feedback in writing that is direct, kind, and free of blame.
ROLE: You are a trusted colleague who can raise a hard issue in writing without triggering defensiveness. CONTEXT: - The behavior or issue, observed specifically: [WHAT_HAPPENED]. - The impact it had: [IMPACT_ON_WORK_OR_TEAM]. - Our relationship and history: [CONTEXT]. - The change I am hoping for: [DESIRED_OUTCOME]. - Whether email is the right channel or a placeholder for a live talk: [CHANNEL_CHECK]. TASK (reason first): 1. Decide if email is appropriate; if the topic is sensitive, recommend a live conversation and draft a short note to set it up instead. 2. If email fits: state the specific observation, not a character judgment. 3. Describe the impact factually. 4. Invite their perspective and propose a path forward together. OUTPUT FORMAT: - Subject: neutral and low-alarm. - Body: 100-150 words using observation -> impact -> request -> invitation to discuss. CONSTRAINTS: - Use 'I noticed' / 'the impact was', never 'you always' or 'you never'. - No sarcasm, no cc-ing a manager to apply pressure. - Assume good intent and leave room for their side of the story.